I’m so utterly disgusted by this woman.
"And who’s to blame for society’s unappreciative attitude towards men? “Antagonistic feminists,” of course. Patton argues that activists has forced an “overcorrection” to American culture, in which society has gone from completely ignoring women’s rights to becoming overly sensitive to their needs. In one particularly strange example, Patton has complained that the rape that occurs between acquaintances — commonly referred to as “date rape” — should be called “mistake sex” to avoid diminishing “the true horror of rape.”
She goes on to say in another interview
I NEED FEMINISM BECAUSE THIS WOMAN IS SAYING I GIVE IT UP FOR A HUSBAND.
Here are some other wonderful ideas that Susan Patton holds
“Potential buyers are unmotivated if offered free merchandise, i.e., it’s the lonely cow that gives away free milk.”
So basically, what she’s saying, is a man won’t marry you, or even want a relationship with you, if you are having casual sex. Because I forget, women are not allowed to have a thriving sex life AND be happy. That’s just preposterous.
“If you’ve struggled with obesity through most of your teen years, then maybe surgical intervention is a good idea for you […] If you’re going to go the route of cosmetic surgery, do it early enough to feel comfortable in your new body before going away to school.”
Now, if you are unfamiliar with dear Sues, her main agenda is getting it through to young women that their main priority while away at college should be finding a qualified husband. NOT you know, expanding their education in order to have a comfortable lifestyle and support oneself. And obviously the ONLY way to reel in a smart, young, attractive suitor is to be the epitome of western beauty. Despite the fact that this advice is physically and psychologically damaging, and that doctors will typically not perform weight loss surgery on teens unless it is medically relevant.
“Online dating can be the equivalent of going to a singles bar… for lazy people. […] Yes, I know that many people meet online and sometimes it works out well, but it is frequently inelegant, undignified, and hazardous.”
Clearly she doesn’t know the ease and effectiveness of online dating. No possible threat of harassment, no awkward pauses, no staring into my drink and twirling the straw around until one of us thinks of another conversation topic. Not to mention, some women just don’t have the time to go out and date men. What with, you know, getting an education and starting a career. Furthermore, I would find it MORE hazardous to meet strange men every weekend for drinks or dinner.
“In choosing a husband, how important are credentials? Extremely important.”
Yeah exactly, because choosing a life long partner should be JUST LIKE choosing a breed of dog, right? It’s not like when you marry someone you want them to be compatible with you. They just need to have a lot of degrees and a lot of money and connections. Who CARES about aspirations and interests and whether or not they chew with their mouth open. And what really gets me about this is that she firmly believes women are wasting their time in college on an education rather than finding a husband, however it’s SO important that a man have an education, a career, and have a high standing social position.
“If you are too drunk to speak, then you may be incapable of saying no or warding off unwanted advances. And then it’s all on you.”
Ahh yes, as if rapists typically just stop when someone says “no”. Being drunk and sexually assaulted is NEVER the victims fault. It doesn’t matter how drunk or sober someone is, the assault is never their fault. This woman is contributing to a culture that blames the victim and encourages victims to not report crimes because they will not be taken seriously.
“[U]ntil you find a spouse, I would advise you invest your effort and energy at least 75 percent in searching for a partner and 25 percent in professional development.”
I’m terribly sorry, but my priorities at 19-20 are NOT finding a life long partner. Not to mention monogamy is a worn out ideal imo. Plus, on top of working, and going to school, how does she expect women to have time to find a partner? Especially since online dating is off the table. Also, why is it the woman’s job to do the spouse searching while the man is busy raising his credentials?
“Self-reliance is the cornerstone of independence […] A measure of self-reliance and creativity is the ability to ‘make it yourself.’ Learn how to bake bread.”
This is cute because while she encourages women to not further their education and get a career, and to stay at home and be a trophy wife, she also supports the idea of self reliance. How else to do that than to completely give into and partake in traditional gender roles! As always, the man should be the bread winner and the woman should be the bread baker.
“You can recover lost time on the job — but not in your children’s lives.”
I desperately wish that she would stop putting child care off on women. She acts as though once you leave a job for an extended period of time you’re able to step right back in and continue up the latter. Men are completely capable of taking the parental leave off of work. Also, just because a woman is working doesn’t mean she can’t also take care of her children.
“Girl, lose the weight! I know it’s hard… just do it.”
……………………………….is there any commentary needed here? It’s not as if there are medical conditions that could make it a LITTLE more difficult than this. It’s not as though women can be fat AND happy. It’s not as if women can be fat AND healthy. Shut up, Susan. I know it’s hard….just do it.
“When she enters college, your daughter will never again be as young, as beautiful, as attractive to men, or as fertile. Encourage her to make the best use of this time.”
Please, do no do this. Your daughter will get PLENTY of attention from men in college. Most of it will be unwanted, and she should not be pushed to choose a husband out of the frat brothers and douche bags that she is attending college with. She should be focusing on getting HER life started, not focusing on settling down. There is plenty of time to do that if it’s what she wants to do.
What we REALLY need to be teaching our daughters is that having a husband is not the key to being successful in life.
This is all so heteronormative and old fashioned and sexist and SAD.
This woman needs to stop having air time and stop trying to influence younger generations that I have so much hope for.